FAMILY HARMONY

By: Sadguru Rameshji

Six steps towards family harmony

Without family harmony, one cannot be genuinely in life, cannot be successfully and cannot live a life that is worth living. Complete family harmony is the key to happiness, prosperity  and success .Family harmony means that there  is an atmosphere of absolute peace, relaxation, unconditional love, fearlessness, understanding ( and not   misunderstanding) freedom  of expression and longing for each other within the family.

Although the responsibility for creating   such harmony lies on every member of the family but the initiative is expected from the elders of the family. And in case  they fail to take  this initiative  then the responsibility falls on the younger generation. It is imperative that parents be more like friends to their children rather than always being parents. They should neither talk negative nor abuse or hurt their feelings a depressed feelings often impede the progress of children. Conversations between parents and children should not always be teaching conversations but learning conversations as well. Daughters are to be taken care of with more love, affection and maturity. They are more emotional and fragile in nature in comparison to the male child. Though they are expected to live with their husbands separately after marriage, it is said that a son is a son till he gets a wife, but a daughter remains a daughter throughout her  life.

This six points (A,B,C,D,E,F)  formula can works wonders for complete family harmony

>ACCEPTANCE: Accept every family member as they are without any complaint or comparison  every soul who comes to a family comes with a distinct attitude, behavior, knowledge, karma, experience etc. comparison with another soul is neither appropriate nor desirable.

>BE A CHILD  and not a grown up :  A child Is an egoless state, is happy without any reason, forgets quarrels and becomes friends in no time, does not carry any impressions ( good or bad) in his/her mind and is always in a playful and relaxed state of mind.

>CONFLICT  AVOIDANCE :  Every family member should try to avoid conflicts, frictions and quarrels. A winner in a quarrel or argument is actually a loser because even if one wins an arguments one loses the harmony of relationship.

>DIL ( HEART) and not DIMAAG ( MIND) :  Heart is always in a mode of compassion ,love and giving, but head is full of jealousy , hatred, ego, revenge, etc, so never allow your head to rule over your heart. Different between heart and head is that the heart say’s  “  let me apologize”  but head would say “ let them apologize first”

>EXPECT LESS :  expectation is the major cause for anger , irritation,  frustration, disappointment and depression. Reduce expectatiions from family members and be happy all the time.

>FORGET AND FORGIVE : every member should develop the habit of forgetting past quarrels seeking forgiveness and forgiving others ( irrespective of who was right and who was wrong) Carrying the dead load of past incidents without forgiving takes away the happiness of presents.